TIP 1 – BE ROCK SOLID
It doesn’t matter which way you slice it. Women are naturally emotional and dramatic and there’s always lots going on in their lives. Most of the time they don’t uncover it. This is the number one reason why you need to let it go when a women flips a lid on you.
Stay calm and let it go. Try not to be the “fixer.”
Don’t try and be “daddy.”
Be stable and show her that you are her rock. Do that and the magic WILL unfold. Just trust me on this one.
TIP 2 – CHIVALRY WINS
Truth be told, a lot of younger women do NOT know what “chivalry” means. If you are not sure, you need to take action and learn.
If you naturally, without being asked, open doors for women, pull out their chair and help them with their jacket, you are the cream of the crop! It’s a clear-cut signal you are respectful and classier than all the other guys.
TIP 3 – PREPARE YOURSELF FOR CONTINUOUS CHANGE
Your mind needs to be ready for oodles of change when you are dating younger women. It makes sense because she’s probably still got a few years of figuring herself out. You need to help her grow and support herself in this.
Keep your mind open and help her become a better person. Understand, you aren’t likely going to be with her a few years down the road but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t step up to the plate.
TIP 4 – MAKE LITTLE TIME FOR HER
Younger women think differently than older men. Sure, you want to see her as much as you can because she’s a younger woman. What you need to understand and accept is that younger girls in general aren’t emotionally level. So when you give them lots of your time, they may read into it more than you’d like.
Do you get what I’m saying here?
Unless you are looking for a clingy needy relationship that’s hot and heavy serious, you need to keep your distance and control.
Once a week is perfect, twice is even okay but nothing more.
Be careful here or you might wreck what could have been a great thing.
TIP 5 – LEAVE THE DOOR OPEN SO SHE GOES TO YOU
I don’t mean this literally. What I mean is you need to ignore her a little so she will come to you and not you to her.
Young girls often look to escape from their families too and with that comes the immature neediness. I don’t mean that in a bad way. You just have to be careful if you’re going to wind up in the daddy role that you don’t want.
Make a point of encouraging her to go live her life without you. And to do this, you’ve got to scam. You might not like the sounds of that but it really is for your own good.
TIP 6 – STEER CLEAR OF INTERFERENCE
The simplest route to make a young pretty girl run is to start butting into her life. Stay clear of her work life, her social life, and her family life. This means you shouldn’t be showing up at her house, calling her at work or making an appearance at the club on a girls night out.
That’s just asking for trouble.
Let her have her independence. Sure, you should give her help and insight about all things life when you can. Just don’t interfere in general with her life or you’ll be in hot water fast.
TIP 7 – TAKE A CHILL PILL WITH YOUR MOVES
I can guarantee just about every beautiful woman on the planet has some sort of wild story about a disgusting older guy that tried to pick her up. Trust me, you do not want to be that guy.
Old often equates to sketchy in a young girls mind and you need to make sure you’re not going to trigger those vibes in her.
You’ll be seen as a pervert if you put the moves on out of the starting gates.
Take it slow and for crying out loud keep your hands off her. Show her you are a gentleman and you’re willing to wait. It’s your only open door to make it work.
TIP 8 – TAKE CONTROL
One thing young women don’t have is mature control. Young women like a man that can make decisions and take control. That’s a signal for sexy confidence and that can be truly magical for a young woman living in our world of chaos.
For certain, young women are not attracted to guys that aren’t willing to take the bull by the horns and take control. If you are inexperienced or shy, you better get to work fixing that.
If you take charge, it will happen.
TIP 9 – GET PLAYFUL WITH HER
I mean this in a non-sexual way. You can flirt a little depending on the situation. But you are better off treating younger women with a little tease. Try making fun of her and triggering her “fake madness.”
It’s all in fun and being totally immature once in a while is a good thing.
Get under her skin a little and deep into her brain. Do that and you’ve got it made.
TIP 10 – EASY ON THE CREEPINESS
Whatever you do, please don’t play the “creep card.” Older men dating younger women often act a tad bit weird. Perhaps because they are out of their comfort zone?
Doesn’t matter, just don’t do it!
Definitely don’t talk or stare too much. Play it confident and cool.
It’s natural for a younger woman to make an older guy feel nervous. You’ve got to tap into mind over matter and get past this pronto.
The last thing you want to feel is not worthy. That’s just a disaster waiting to happen.
MISTAKES OLDER GENTLEMAN MAKE WHEN CHASING YOUNGER WOMEN
There are a few key mistakes men make when looking to capture the eye of a younger woman. Some are easily avoidable and others not so much.
Information is knowledge and the more info you have in your brain about what not to do when your intent is to hook up with a younger gal, the better.
MISTAKE ONE – PUTTING ON A “YOUNGER” ACT
Okay, your age is your age, nothing more or less. Don’t bother trying to act like you are younger than your birth certificate says.
Don’t say, “I’m 47 but everyone says I look like I’m 35.” Ugh…
And definitely, do not hit the college campus bar scene to mingle with the girls that just turned of age. Holy crap that says oodles about you.
Of course, there are exceptions to ever rule, it’s pretty easy to stay straight with this one.
A young girl doesn’t want a man that “thinks” he’s younger than he really is. Any young girl interested in an older man wants an older man, not a 20 year old.
If you can learn to act your age and not your shoe size, stay away from the “creepy” zone and show these young women you are content in your skin and with your age, you’ve just found your golden ticket.
MISTAKE TWO – ANOTHER BAD ACTING MOVE – PRETENDING TO BE THE CREEPY OLD GUY
A totally bad piece of dating advice is to risk being portrayed as “creepy.” What this translates to is that when you’re moving in on a young woman, you must push the envelope. And it really doesn’t matter whether she thinks you might be a tad “weird” or not, you need to simply go for it!
So you don’t necessarily cross that line, but you are forward and aggressive and are sitting on the side of the fence that dictates “creepy,” not the “relaxed nice gentleman.”
Bottom line…if you are moving up in the years department, you need to be seen as the “non-creepy” gentleman.
It’s in your best interest to be that “safe,” “fun,” and “confident” older guy. The one that is wise-sexy, knows what he wants and knows how to get it without the creepiness.
Work on being confident and secure in your skin, that’s sexy. Don’t be that easily offended and reactive guy – Eek.
Truth – Too many older men blow it with younger women by playing the “creepy” card. Creepy is scary, just do not venture there and you’ll do just fine.
MISTAKE THREE – IGNORING HUMAN HYGIENE
This one is totally disgusting. If you are older and think you can just “appear” super sexy attractive to the younger women, you’re nuts.
Not going to happen.
Sure, a 25 year old can wake up in the morning, walk out the door and reek super sexy with just shorts and a t-shirt on.
Newsflash – You aren’t 25 and I’m sure you haven’t got the jock body anymore. Sorry, I’m assuming but I’m right, right?
If you are 45 and looking to hook up the girls in their 20’s, you’re going to have to put some serious effort into your appearance. I’m not talking about showering and combing your hair, if you still have some.
This means, you need to make sure your grooming is impeccable. You get your hair cut regularly, take care of your skin, wear cologne and deodorant of course, regular dental checkups and your wardrobe needs to be up to date.
Dress for your age but dress with style, according to.
I understand, you aren’t going to pull off the George Clooney look, holy hot. But you do need to take action to be fitter, dress nicer, and treat your body to whatever it takes to look better.
Younger women are interested in men that take care of themselves and care what they look like.
I’m telling you right now, a good-looking older man takes the cake always. Just saying…
MISTAKE FOUR – DON’T LET EXTERNAL FACTORS STEER YOU OFF COURSE
This one make total sense to me but you’ve got to nip it in the bud fast.
There are lots of older men that want to hook up with younger girls but don’t because these things are in their brains…
*I just shouldn’t go out with a younger women, it’s wrong.
*People will think I’m a creep if I go out with a young woman.
*No young woman is going to be drawn to an old guy like me.
*We aren’t on the same page. Dating just won’t work because we are in different phases in our lives.
STOP right now because these are programmed thoughts. The one that traditional way-out-dated society puts into the brains of really fantastic older guys that are open to dating younger women.
The Facts Straight Up…
*There is nothing wrong with dating a younger woman just along as she is legally of age and wants the same.
*There are plenty of women that are craving an older mature and non-creepy guy to date. Many young women don’t want the immature younger guy just because of all the crap that goes with it.
*Unfortunately there is some truth to the older gentleman being shallow because he’s going with a younger woman. Usually, it’s the older people that aren’t happy in their skin and pissed that some older men do get beautiful younger women.
Who gives a crap? That’s all I’ve got to say on this one.
*When it comes to the question about being at different phases in life. That’s true but that doesn’t mean the younger woman don’t want to challenge it. A heck of a lot of younger women don’t want a serious relationship.
They don’t want to entertain the traditional role of getting married and starting a relationship forever-Yikes!
“Different” phases in life does not mean incompatible.
Take action to make sure you avoid these common mistake older make when looking to date younger women. You’ll do great!
WHAT HAPPENS IF YOU ARE TRYING TO ATTRACT A YOUNGER WOMAN AND YOU HARDLY KNOW HER?
Here are a few expert proven steps to take if you want to get into the head of a younger woman and you really haven’t even broken the ice yet.
STEP ONE – SIMPLE – JUST GET TO KNOW WHO SHE REALLY IS, ACCORDING TO THOUGHT CATOLOG
I don’t care what type of relationship you are looking to venture into, you first need to get to know who this girl is from the inside out. Whether she is younger than you or not really doesn’t matter a hill of beans.
You need to take action to understand each other if you are ever going to connect positively on any level.
Girls love a great conversation, a total turn-on.
Ask her about her family and friends, her dreams and accomplishments.
STEP TWO – MAKE SURE SHE KNOWS YOU LIKE HER DESPITE HER AGE
The worst thing you can do is start basing your connection on age. You lose big-time if that’s the case. If you are always talking about age, she is going to pick up on that. Simply screaming, you are insecure and focused on what the world thinks regarding dating and age.
That’s not good news for you at all.
Talking about the age just makes you look like you are insincere and not genuine.
STEP THREE – NEVER HEAD FULL SPEED AHEAD
You’ve got to nip the issue in the bud fast and make sure you don’t jump in with both feet to ask her out too fast.
News Flash – That’s a message to send her running far and fast from you!
If you are going to build a genuine long-lasting relationship, it takes time and energy. It does not happen at the drop of the hat.
Be firm in what you want and make sure she understands you want to take it one calculated step at a time.
Ask her out and go from there.
PS – If she doesn’t want to go out with you it’s important you walk away fast. Why? You deserve – End of story.
STEP FOUR – SHOW HER THAT YOU ARE SUPER UNDERSTANDING AND
Make sure you put her needs first. Ask her how she’s doing and make super sure you never ever in a zillion years ignore her in front of your buddies, just because she is a few ions younger.
Shame on you if you do!
Make it clear you are interested in her and see how she responds.
If you care as a friend, even if she is resistant initially, you might just get her heart and soul when all is said and done.
Another key action move is to make sure she is included in your plans if she is comfy. So if you are meeting your friends at the bar on Saturday, make sure you tell her you’d like her to come.
Won’t take you long to figure out if it works or not.
STEP FIVE – MAKE SURE YOU ARE A GREAT FLIRTER!
Just make sure you are feeling the vibes from her that she would like to be more than friends. If you feel this, the next best move is to start flirting.
Just be gentle and sweet here. Maybe some flowers and a few cute hints that you think she is simply amazing.
Be smart and tap into her interests. Compliment her on and open the door for her to show her you appreciate her. Doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure this one out.
STEP SIX – PRIORITY SIX – BE CERTAIN TO SHOW YOU ARE UNDERSTANDING INSIDE OUT
It doesn’t matter whether she wants to date you or not off the hop. You only need to show her that you are understanding with whatever she wants.
If a dating relationship is going to work, it takes two people that want to make it work.
Otherwise you are headed for disaster.
Need I say more?
STEP SEVEN – COMMIT TO PRACTICE, PRACTICE, AND PRACTICE SOME MORE
If you want to develop any skill, you are going to have to commit to practice it until you create fabulous. Then you are going to have to work a little more!
Be aware…there are plenty of fish in the sea.
This doesn’t mean, you just need to trust all the girls that aren’t working to the side. But it does mean that when you put your heart and soul into a younger woman and it doesn’t work, there are options.
That’s good news or you!
Perhaps you would like to try the “catch and release” method until you are comfortable in all this?
Seriously, you just need to take action to learn and you will make it happen.
When you are focused on hooking up with a younger gal that you have never met, it takes a little bit of planning and strategy.
Can you do it…yes!
Is it difficult? Seriously, not really.
All you need to do is use what you have learned to make it happen. Pay attention to the signals, make sure you are sincere, and use your strengths to capture the girl of your dreams.
It really is up to you.
When you are trying to attract a younger woman, there is no manual. I’m super sorry about that. What you need to do is focus on your strengths and confidence. Show this younger woman that you can take care of yourself to start.
Then you need to show her you can take care of her if she wants. It’s not about buying the younger woman at all. It’s all about showing these women that you can hold your own and would enjoy their company if the feelings are mutual.